As a copywriter, I’m not a fan of this trend – but geez it works
By the end of 2016 I was totally over Facebook groups. All the whinging, all the sooking, all the negativity, all the passive-aggressive competitiveness.
I was drained, I was over it and honestly, it did nothing to help with my business anxiety levels. As for online marketing – I had no leads through any groups. So, I went through all my groups and stopped notifications. I didn’t want to ‘listen’ to it anymore.
It’s blissful when you’re not constantly getting pinged about someone posting in a business group. Try it!
Why do we join Facebook groups?
‘You HAVE to network, you HAVE to be social online, you HAVE to be seen as the authority so speak up in groups’…Hands up if you’ve been given the same advice? I listened, I took it, and I joined all sorts of Facebook groups.
But this happened:
- I would read through posts and occasionally offer advice when it was my area of expertise. BUT so did heaps of others who were also experts and my advice got lost in the sea
- I was occasionally tagged by my gorgeous peers as an amazing copywriter (thanks guys). BUT so were heaps of others and the original poster doesn’t respond to all the recommendations so again, lost in the sea
- I was a tiny fish in the big Facebook group sea and drowning in all the bullshit people flushed
After my Christmas break, I decided to check WHY I had ended up feeling like this. And I’ve noticed a massive trend. As a copywriter, it’s a trend that goes against my positive spin on the world, but it’s a trend that is working amazingly well.
‘Oh woe is me’ will get you hundreds of likes and comments
I’m not saying this is in every group, but the ones I’m in have a massive trend of what I’m calling, ‘Negative Nancy’ marketing (sorry to all the real Nancy’s in this world – it’s not directed at you personally).
Let me demonstrate with some case studies:
- I launched and didn’t get the sales I wanted – boohoo:
A snippet: ‘How can I get a higher conversion rate as I was kinda bummed yesterday with the lack of sales upon launching?’
The response: 27 loves and likes and 62 comments, including, ‘I love your product, you’ve inspired me, I’ve bought your eBook now’, ‘Oh wow, your butt looks so good – I want a butt like yours – I’ve bought your eBook’. - My boyfriend dumped me (and I’ll tell the business world):
A snippet: ‘But he was so awesome and promised me he really loved me and wasn’t going to hurt me’.
The response: 50 likes, loves and sad faces and 146 comments all telling her she’s wonderful and sharing their resources of encouragement to help her. What I see – drawing attention to yourself to get sympathy (the whole heartbreak, single mum running a business thing) and sell your product/service. I mean seriously – why would you tell a Facebook group with 27,480 members about your private issues? - They stole my idea – buy my product and let’s show them who’s boss:
A snippet: ‘They’ve now taken another design and are copying that and selling it too – I’m super pissed that a big arse company is walking all over me without responding to a single email’.
The response: 13 likes and 66 comments including people giving advice, telling her copying is the best form of flattery, people checking out her designs, and purchasing her product in support (with one saying they’d buy it by the 100’s!).
But it gets better:
Her follow up: A day later, she thanked everyone, offering a 15% discount which results in a post like of 286 and 77 comments – selling out product lines!
It’s negative, but it’s bloody smart online marketing
I may not be a huge fan of the approach (as negativity drags me down to hell) but I’m a fan of the results people get. I was taught that positive writing and appealing to people’s desires is what sells products. I’m now thinking that selling a sob story works better!
As a mum, I relate. I always say that children love attention. Whether it’s negative or positive attention – it’s still attention and they lap it up. The same goes in the modern online business marketing world.
Sell your sob story, watch everyone want to be the ‘loving hero’, watch egos be inflated, and watch products sell out. Amazing hey.
How you can perfect this new online marketing system
It seems to work!
Personally, I’m not a fan and I think I’ll stick to being a happy-go-lucky, humorous kind of chick. But hey – try it if you’re good at coming up with a sad story.
I’m not shouting for attention, but if you had a laugh at this blog, please share
No, I’m not already getting divorced (I’ve only been married a month). No, no one has copied me (well not worth mentioning anyway). No, I’m not scared I’ll lose money by people under-quoting me (as I have confidence people who love my copywriting style will come to me). And no, I’m not worried my world will crumble if my blog is ignored (there’s a big sea of blogs and I’m just one humble copywriter).
I couldn’t read those example whinges without hearing a nasally, whiny voice in my head! It’s been bringing me down too – I definitely prefer the positive selling tactic, and wouldn’t do my own marketing any other way. I want people to work with me because I’m a happy, friendly person (and because I know my stuff!), not because they feel guilted into it or feel sorry for me.
“Negative Nancy” marketing may work in the short-term, but it’s not sustainable, and I would worry that it would hurt my business in the long-run. It’s hard to have faith in a business when the business owner is appearing to be unsure of themselves.
So true Hanna. It’s not my style either but it seems to be the trend. There was another one this morning! ‘I’m splitting with my husband so I must sell all of my stock’…
Couldn’t agree more! I can pick two FB groups instantly where this happens daily and I too have stopped notifications from them for the same reasons as you!
Haha – they are probably the same groups! 🙂
Agree, agree, agree! I would describe my relationship with (especially) Facebook as being a ‘love/hate’ relationship. I am there because I believe I need to be, but there I times when I want to chuck my phone / computer (depending on what device I’m using) through the wall. I have spent some time over Christmas ‘unfollowing’ quite a few groups (and people) because they’re driving me bonkers bananas!!!
I had many head thump moments before I unfollowed so many groups. I’m so glad to see I’m not alone. Maybe we can slowly bring back some fun to Facebook! And congrats on your own book Ingrid – very impressed.
haha! classic. I call it faking insecurity. “I’m really not very good at this, am I?” *cue plethora of comments to reinforce that person*
It’s how they build their merry band of minions who really are just playing along so they can get something out of them anyway. 🙂
Thanks Kelly. I’m super glad you get my humour and are able to have a laugh at the trend. 🙂
Haha this is an awesome post Monique. I think we all love a good whinge now and again, but when it becomes a habit it can be a bit wearing.
Thanks Kate. It’s the constant negativity that is draining. 🙂 A group I was in seemed to only be a bunch of whinging people.
I am hearing you loud and clear Monique! I’ve turned off most notifications too – I have a small circle of trusted spaces. Sometimes I get lured into the bigger groups and cannot roll my eyes hard enough at the transparent negative bullshit that people fall for! You’ve inspired me to finish my blog on things you shouldn’t post in FB groups – thanks for saying what so many of us were thinking!
I’m so, so glad I’m not alone! Let me know when your blog is finished as I’d love to read that. You’ll probably step on toes too so we could have our own little club. 😉
Oh gawd. This post is cringeworthy on so many levels! Love it. #irony
Cringeworthy! Thanks – I think. 🙂